Mommys and Daddys teaching our little ones

Teaching our kids while they are young!

Praying.

Let me start off with saying I am not here to push religion onto anyone!! I am only going to say that I personally believe that it is important to have some sort of belief system. What struck this conversation today is something small. My little girls fish died today. We have had “ Buddy” the fish for a year now. I knew he had died but not quite sure what to do with him yet because this gold fish had become quite large. Way to big to flush! So his tale is kind of hanging out of the pink castle we have in the tank. So she walks up to the tank today and says mommy I don't want Buddy to die. Well it was that obvious I couldn't just say he was napping #1 I don't want to lie to her when she clearly knows the truth and I want her to trust me enough to know I will always tell her the truth # 2 read number one again!

Some parents may have chosen the other route and told their child he was napping. But I couldn't lie to her not when she already new in her heart what had happened! She ran to me and cried mommy I don't want him to die why did he die? Trying to stay strong and not let her see me tearing up as well I took in a deep breath and said to her honey everyone does not live forever it was his time to be with God. God has taken buddy and he is now his fish angel. I let her cry it out while holding her and rubbing her back. Then she asked if I could make her a tent in the kitchen. Of course I did and she then took a small cup and put some flowers in it and set it on the outside the tent and said mommy this is for Buddy. Once she was inside she asked me mom will god take care of him can you ask him to take care of Buddy. Heart breaking! I told her honey he was your fish maybe you should ask him. So she asked me how to pray. Since she was in such a small kitchen tent I showed her how to kneel on her knees put her hands together and close her eyes and talk to god he will hear you. So she did. She didn't want me to watch so I stepped away then peeked in anyways. What parent wouldn't take a peek. She opens her eyes and looks out at me mommy did I do it right? I said to her yes honey you did it perfectly!

I was baptized Catholic but do not go to church every week, but that does not mean I don't believe in god or faith. I think it is so important to teach our kids as long as you have faith and believe everything will be ok! My daughter and I both say prayers before eating. She always asks me mom how did you know what to say? I tell her its important to thank god for everything he has given us. Now for those who may not believe in god like I do you can't say your not thankful for the things and opportunities that you have been given whether you thinks its luck or what ever you are thankful none the less and that is all I am trying to do teach my daughter right from wrong, how to be thankful, and everything happens for a reason.

There are so many things in this world that we not be able to teach our children somethings they must learn on their own, but we can teach them how to believe and to think positive and teach them to be honest. When they have children one day we can only hope they will raise their babies right why not give them some good examples. We as parents may not be perfect all the time we are still human and as long as we are alive we will continue to make mistakes. As long as we learn from them then we are not doing to bad. As I tell my daughter I will tell you we all make mistakes but as long as you learn from them and don't repeat them your ok!

Annie.

Just food for thought! If your child finds themselves in a situation later in life who would you rather them turn to God or something that may not be a better choice. Teach our childern to make good life choices and as parents lets try and lead as an example!

Day 15 Fitness update

Day 15 Fitness Update!!

So although this may seem pretty silly to others I find this a helpful tool towards my goal. Today is only day 15, but my body is starting to feel the difference. So far I am working out 5 days a week. Now not everyone has to start out this way but I am currently unemployed as of two weeks ago so now I have nothing but time and they have a child care at the gym. Not only do I get to work out but my kid gets play time its a win win for the both of us. As far as my diet I have stepped up on my veggies and trying to back off on the carbs. Morning times I am either doing a Slimfast shake or egg whites and add some veggies. I am not cooking with butter either I will use a little bit of olive oil. The majority off cooking I do if I can not use my George Forman that is I will use the olive oil. I don't drink any soda I only drink water, Crystal light juice no sugar no calories and coffee. I refuse to give up coffee LOL not negotiable!! Always remember calories in calories out is the key! Now as far as those big girl panties I am slightly putting them on lol I have finally convinced my fiance to take a class with me so we are going to do a Spin class tomorrow. Please pray I don't pass out and die lol.

What is the worst thing that can happen to a person when working out. We might possibly feel better about our selves physically, and emotionally. The pounds may not be melting off right now but I have lost some inches and I am feeling amazing and more productive. I am sleeping better at night and waking up feeling refreshed for the first time in well ever really. Even the last time I went on my health kick I can't remember waking up feeling like this. I have only lost 5lbs so far but I am gaining a lot of muscle and my tummy is starting to go down. I should be at my goal by summer time. My ultimate goal is to be a 115 so I know I have a lot more to go from here! I am hoping to loose 15lbs by next month so wish me luck and thank you for listening to me=0) Until next week=)

Annie.

 

Work out play list currently listenting to some early 90's hip hop Like Salt N Pepa

 

 

My Fitness Update

Well it's been a little while since I have written last so I just wanted to give you an update on my fitness goal and staying healthy.

So I am closing in on week one of trying to make it to the gym every day I almost made it. I had to let my body rest Wednesday. I am getting ready at the moment to go to the gym now, but wanted to give you an update. I didn't Mention before but I am going through a big diet change because I want to and second my body is forcing me to I now have an ulcer and having some kidney problems I have been taken care of lately. So I am unable to eat anything acidic or spicy. Man does this suck I have everything with hot sauce I would put Seracha in my coffee if it taste good LOL. Yesterday I went out and did some major grocery shopping all fresh veggies, fish, chicken basicly everything healthy I could fit into one cart and shove into my tiny little Bug. Also this week I started taking the Pure Green Coffee Bean Pills. As you can see my body is undertaking a lot of change. I have lost a few pounds but putting on more muscle than anything. My main concentration is doing cardio at the moment. Trying to keep positive and even if I don't feel like going to the gym I go anyways. It is important to keep routine so I am trying to convince my mind and body. I really would love to take classes, but have not put those big girl panties on because I chickened out! It was scary when I got to the gym everyone paired up with someone they knew. By the end of next week I am going to get into one of those classes!! Well being the first week I have no major weight loss but I have a little I will up date my fitness blog next week again. If you have any tips or suggestions on this please send me a message=)

Annie.

Staying positive trying not to get discouraged=)

Family's and staying health together!

Staying healthy as a family.

        If you were to look up my name in the dictionary it may say a few things like: Couch potato, and Lazy book worm. I always get on these fitness kicks then a short time after its like I never even did anything. I started out at 200 lbs after I had my daughter. I decided that I could not live that way. I kicked ass and got into the 130's I even stayed in that range for a while. Of course I was still not satisfied with myself. Then I started working for a new company after taking a break for a little while. The one thing I loath about working is the junk food. I am so glad patients appreciate us and love us enough to take the time to bake us goodies but it kills me every time. You think oh I can have just one that wont kill me or I deserve this or what I am famous for I am about to start my period I need this chocolate! At my fiance's work he goes in everyday to a buffet I kid you not Donuts, bagels, pastries everything you could possibly think of. Now if we could only get people to cater healthy food to our companies that would be even more amazing!

After I started working again I am now almost reaching my two year mark and also up almost 30lbs. YIKES!! I can't believe I have let myself get this lazy again. Lucky for the hubby he is very tall and his weight doesn't even look bad on him. Men also loose weight so much faster than women just a proven fact. I hate them for that LOL. Women especially women who have had children have to work so much harder. It isn't just about working out I think we all know that by now. So let me stop real fast I am no way shape or form a fitness instructor I am basing mostly everything off of experience. What we eat what we take in is a huge contribution to why we weigh so much. To test that theory I started out changing my eating habits before jumping into working out. I started out but eating Lean Cuisines and drinking slim fast in the morning. I work full time and have a child to get ready in the morning I don't have time to be Betty Crocker in the morning. So I grab a shake ( Slim fast). I also stop drinking soda. The weight just started coming off. But after so long you need to add in the work out. I did and I was doing great for a while at least. Then my laziness kicked in.

    So It looks like I am going to start on my health kick again, but we are now doing it as a family. Family's that play together stay together. So as a family we are trying to do more things as a unit. So recently we joined the newest 24 hr fitness it is now considered a super sport club. AMAZING wow just wow it has everything! I am so juiced to start classes there. Although I wish I had a work out buddy to do classes with I am going to have to woman up and put on those big girl panties and just do it! My fiance it sticking to lifting and cardio. So those we can do together, but you wont catch him doing Turbo kick or Zumba with me lol. The best part about it is we don't have to search for a sitter. They have a well trained certified kids club there. My best friend who also works for one was telling me all the hoops they have to go through to work there with the background checks and becoming CPR certified. That made me and the hubby that much more comfortable leaving her there to play. Listen to me I swear I don't work for one. I just love to promote things that make me happy and make life easier. Today was my first time there at this club and it was amazing. I admit it can get a little pricy, but with our budgeting and the fact we don't really do to much and don't have cable it allows us to do this.

I figured if I write about this to an audience I would be more inspired to keep up with my workouts and fitness goals and let you know how it goes. This will give me more of a push because now I have gone public with it! Just so you know as of today I am 160lbs and 5”2 so you know for us short folks we just get wide not so cute so I am in trim down mode. Also I am getting married in September so we are trying to look good for that as well as just trying to stay healthy.

      So here is to the beginning of my workout journal and letting my readers know my progress. I encourage other women to do the same I would love to talk to anyone else who is trying to feel better about them selves again. Lets be each others inspiration and motivation!! God knows I need it as well no one is strong all of the time that is why us women should have someone we can go to for support and if you already do that’s amazing, if not we can always chat and encourage each other and build one another up!

Annie:)

(Putting on my big girl panties one leg at a time.)

P.s. What type of music gets you going for your workout? Lets share play lists. Right now I am in fighter mode so rock is what is pushing me through. I am currently listening to Avenge Sevendold.

Hectic Moms SOS

As for me a mom of 1 life gets pretty hectic. I seriously bow down to those Mommy’s out there with more then one child. I don't know how you manage I would be bald by now from yanking out all my hair. To think I want to add to our chaos and have another baby. My daughter is now 5 years old and is very independent so I suppose it wouldn't be that bad. She is starting kindergarten so I'm not sure if I'm ready to start over with diaper changing quite yet. I have gotten a little selfish with my time lately. My time is split between working, daughter, fiance, housekeeping, and trying to write.

 

As a woman multitasking is a gift from God he was so kind enough to bestow upon us. For me I am a slacker I'm so pooped during the week I leave what I can for the weekends. My kitchen has to stay clean I live in a small apartment and cooking one night looks like a weeks worth of dishes.

So here is the thing. I don't know what the big secret is that I am not being let in on, but how in the hell do moms mange a social life? I can't just leave my kid with just anyone. I see so many moms out there clubbing still and getting trashed with their friends and posting picture on facebook all the time. Why is it that you can manage to get out that often who is raising your children or child? Wednesday through Saturday night I see you guys partying every weekend. I try not to judge, but some people make it hard not to ask questions. Who is tucking your baby in at night?

After I had my daughter I was told by some close friends how many friends they lost once they had their children. I guess I didn't think to much about that until I had my kid. Man was that true once you are no longer able to just go out when ever you want to. Life doesn't stop for us while we are trying to have a family. I get text or calls saying hey lets hit San Francisco tonight or San Jose. Where exactly do you suppose I pull this sitter from my A**?? Not only that I am 29 and some of my friends are slightly older which leads to another question how old is to old to be clubbing? I don't live as close to my family as I wish I could so maybe that is where my problem lies. I don't have my family at my beckon call to watch my kid when ever we want to go out. Even if I do get a sitter it is normally one person that I trust and I have to pick my little girl up by 10 in the morning. So I can't necessarily go out and get tanked and still be alive enough to pick up my kid in the morning.

So I am slowly coming to grips with that I am content being alone. I do get together with some friends from time to time, but it is typically places respectable enough to bring my daughter with me. So I have a few people telling me that its a issue I need to get over. I work my ass off all week and hardly get quality time with my family so excuse me if I don't want to go out and party with out them. Please everyone let me know if I am the one with the issues here. Don't get me wrong I love the idea of being able to go out with my girls. I have even done just that. But I feel like I am losing interest in what some of them are talking about. I am slowly becoming a hermit that doesn't want to social outside of her family and work. Please Moms out there give me some advice on how to keep social and maintaing friendships while leading a busy life. I am very grateful for the handful of friends I do have that understand or just love me enough to know I am a mommy now and I have responsibilities. It is harder and harder to relate to anyone anymore. I know I must sound pathetic but it is what it is. Any advice would be helpful!

Annie.

Carpe Diem

I just want to say a quick thank you to everyone who is taking time to read my blogs. Please fills free to let me know what you think of my little blog posts. I love feed back !

 

I don't see myself as a religious person but I consider myself a spiritual person. I don't believe that you need to be in a church to worship god or whom ever it is or whatever it is you may believe in. I think that as long as you know in your heart you believe and you have faith that's all that matters. I pray everyday but just because it doesn't take place in a church or Temple doesn't make it any less meaningful.

My favorite phrase is “Carpe Diem” Seize the day. Let the ones close to you know how much you value them. Tell your Mom, Dad, Child, Husband, Brother or Sister etc that you love them. Spend some quality time with them if that only means sharing a meal together. Find something you guys can do together to spend time with each other. You never know when your time is going to be cut short and it will be to late to go back. When death comes there are no do overs or take backs. Carpe Diem!!!

“Appreciation - Learn to give flowers while people are still living”
― Joel Osteen

“You may be at a crossroads in your life. You may have issues to deal with; people you need to forgive. You can go one of the two ways. You can ignore what you now know to be true and keep burying that bitterness in your life, pushing it deeper and allowing it to poison and contaminate you and those around you. Or you can make a much better choice by getting it out in the open and asking God to help you to totally forgive and let it all go.”
― Joel Osteen, Your Best Life Now: 7 Steps to Living at Your Full Potential

What triggered this blog was that in the past week I have had 4 patients call in and either reschedule or cancel do to a death in their family. When hearing things like this it makes a person reflect on their own life. Thinking to myself I ask some questions: Did I tell my family I love them enough today?, Did I show them in some way that I care? It is the smallest things that you do that can make huge impact on someone elses life. Remember life is precious and we need to appreciate the blessings that we have been given.

So as for my readers once again thank you for taking the time out of your day to read what I have to say today. It is very heart warming to know that I can touch someone, reach someone on some level whether I made you smile, laugh or made any kind of positive impact on you.

I chose to use Joel Osteen's quotes because although I may not be able to make it to church as much as I would like I thoroughly enjoy reading his books and quotes or listening to his podcast to lift my spirits in some way.

Annie.

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Trying not to screw things up

Direction. I feel like I have come to a point in my life that I need more guidance. I am a 29 year old receptionist. Not that there is anything wrong with the job that I have, but I expected to have finished collage by now married and had a kid. Well I am partially there. I am engaged to my boyfriend of 11 years and we have a beautiful little girl who is now 5 years old. He is also a student a Chemistry major at that very intelligent, but juggling school and work at the same time as well as trying to raise a child is hard work. Parenting is a full time job all on it's own.

As parents we are constantly trying not to mess up our children permanently. Myself growing up had a horrible childhood. I guess I am just in panic because I have come so far and trying not to mess up my little girl the way my parents did to me. Although I am not on drugs and drinking my self into a coma thinking it will fix everything I am trying to work hard and keep everything together for my daughter. I want her to look at me with respect knowing when she reaches a certain age her mom did everything in her power to educate her and to raise her right! My fiance and I work very hard to make sure she gets everything she needs in life. To start off with she has two parents whom love her very much and will do anything to see her happy. We as a family are truly blessed to have one another he keeps me strong when I am down and I in turn do the same for him. Our little girl will come home with questions about our relationship. There are not to many kids in her class who have both of their parents together. Right now we are trying to prepare her for kindergarten this fall. But goes back to me and the hubby's schedule another juggling act we will soon have to prepare for. Since when did kindergarten only do less than half a day? This is insane how are we as working parents suppose to be able to work full time to support our family and manage the fact school isn't even a full time deal anymore?

I am not sure if I had mentioned this in my previous post but I am fallowing my dream and trying to become a published writer. So when I am not working and have free time I am writing. Just about anything and everything that comes to mind. Not that I needed to add anything else to my crazy plate of life with working and my family. I am trying to not lose myself an wanted to do something that I love while I had down time that wouldn't cost me anything. Being parents we are always trying to budget and trying to find things to do that wont cost us to much. Just so happens I love to write and have this crazy dream of some day walking up to a store and finding someone buying something I poured my heart and soul into. So for now because I am trying my damnedest not to screw my child up I swear not to drink away my issues with anything but coffee and try to set a good example of fallowing your dreams no matter how silly they may seem to someone else.

                                                                                

Life is hard and is always testing us. So I am trying to keep positive and know that all our craziness will die down and pay off for our family one day. No Matter how hard life gets I will always be grateful for my loving little family of 3.

P.s. No matter how old we are everyone needs a little guidance every now and then. What appears to look perfect from the outside is not always the case. We all have our troubles but it is learning how to deal with them in a healthy constructive manner!

Annie.